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March 12, 2020


To help youth understand what it means to truly love someone and teach them how to love others more effectively.


Go around the room and have everyone share one high point (best thing) and one low point (worst thing) about this past week

What is one thing in your life that you would never give up?

Have you ever had to give something up for someone you cared about? What did that look like?


How do you think our actions and words affect how we receive and show love?

  •  What does it look like to sacrifice something for someone you love?

In Spencer’s talk he talked about how knowing your significant other’s love language can drastically change how your relationships function.

  • Do you agree with what Spencer is saying about relationships? Do you think knowing and understanding each other’s love languages can have a huge impact on your relationships?
  • Do you think it is important to take the time to figure out what your love language is? How can you figure out your love language?
  • What do you think it would look like if you and your significant other took the time to figure each other’s love languages out? How do you think this would impact your relationship?

Read 1 John 3:16-18: This is how we have discovered love’s reality: Jesus sacrificed his life for us. Because of this great love, we should be willing to lay down our lives for one another. If anyone sees a fellow believer in need and has the means to help him, yet shows no pity and closes his heart against him, how is it even possible that God’s love lives in him? Beloved children, our love can’t be an abstract theory we only talk about, but a way of life demonstrated through our loving deeds”

  • What stood out to you in this passage? Do you agree with what the author is saying here?
  • What do you think the author is trying to say about love?
  • How would your life be different if you loved or were loved the way the author is describing here? What would change?

How does Jesus’ example of love demonstrate how we should love? What should you do to love others more effectively?


Gary Chapman, author of the book “The 5 love languages” explains that everyone has different ways of expressing and receiving love that are often displayed in 5 different ways: Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Quality Time and Gifts. Each person often gives and receives love in different ways; and so if we are to love others effectively it is important that we understand our love languages & the love languages of the people we care about.

This week I want to challenge each of you to figure out your love languages, and ask yourself – what are ______’s love languages? This could be your significant other, a best friend, or even a parent or sibling. Once you’ve figured that out, try to be intentional this week to show that person love the way they experience love.


Ask your group/child if there are any prayer requests or praise reports that they would like to share. Take a moment and pray over all the requests.

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