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February 27, 2020


To help youth understand that when you love someone, you will do everything in your power to protect what is important to them – especially their boundaries.


Go around the room and have everyone share one high point (best thing) and one low point (worst thing) about this past week

If you were searching through a dating site, what’s the #1 thing that would attract you to someone?

What line is worse to cross – “borrowing” $20 from a friend without telling them, talking loudly in a movie theater, or chewing with your mouth open while talking to someone?


What do you think people make such a big deal about love? In your opinion, what makes love so important?

  • What do you think is the purpose of love?

What do you think it means to put someone else before yourself?

  • In a relationship, what would it look like to put someone else first?

During his talk, Spencer talked about the importance of boundaries and respecting boundaries. What do you think it means to have boundaries in a relationship?

  • Are boundaries important in a relationship? Why or why not?
  • What are some boundaries people (or yourself!) typically have in a relationship?
  • How would you feel if someone/your significant other did not respect your boundaries?

Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, asking the youth to focus on what stands out to them: “Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up.” (1 Cor 13:4-7)

  • What stood out to you in that passage?
  • What do you think the author is trying to communicate about love?

What do you think it means to protect what is important to someone?

  • In your opinion, is it important to protect the interests of the person you love?
  • What can you do to better protect what is important to your significant other?


While it may be difficult, the reality is that for love to succeed – it’s important for both people to put the other person’s interests first. To quote Dave Willis: “Marriage is not 50-50. Divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It isn’t dividing everything in half, but giving everything you’ve got!” – and so if you want to succeed in your dating relationships, it’s important that you learn to protect the other persons interests, and put them first.

This week, we want to encourage you to do two things:

  1. Take some time and figure out for yourself – what are boundaries that you want to have in your relationships? Take note of them, and make sure to share them with your significant other (now or in the future)
  2. If you are dating someone, ask yourself – am I protecting what is important to them? Am I putting them first? If the answer is no – figure out what you can do to put them first and protect them.



Ask your group/child if there are any prayer requests or praise reports that they would like to share. Take a moment and pray over all the requests.

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