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February 20, 2020


To help youth see the importance of loving yourself, and how self-love plays a role in relationships.


Go around the room and have everyone share one high point (best thing) and one low point (worst thing) about this past week

If you could pick one celebrity to go on a date with, who would you pick and why? 

If you could go back in time and change one thing about your life, would you do it? What would you change? How do you think that would affect your life?


If someone were to come up to you on the street and ask “What is love?”, how would you respond? How would you define love/being in love?

  • Do you find it difficult to define what it means to love/be in love? Why or why not?

What do you think it means to love yourself?

  • Do you find it easy or hard to love yourself? Why or why not?

Have you ever met somebody who loves themselves? What makes those kinds of people stand out?

During his talk, Darien said “When you don’t love yourself, it is easy to miss how valuable you are and let others treat you like garbage.”

  • Do you agree with what Darien is saying? What makes you agree or disagree?
  • In your opinion, why does self-love affect how others treat you?

Read Luke 12:6-7 TPT: “What is your value to God? Could your worth be defined by an amount of money? God doesn’t abandon or forget even the small sparrow he has made. How then could he forget or abandon you? What about the seemingly minor issues of your life? Do they matter to God? Of course they do! So you never need to worry, for you are more valuable to God than anything else in this world”

  • What do you think Jesus is trying to say here about your value?
  • Is it possible that you are maybe more valuable than you think?

In your opinion, what does loving yourself look like? How can you love yourself?


Relationships are tough; but they are even harder when one (or both) people don’t love themselves. As counter-intuitive as it may seem, loving yourself is crucial for a successful relationship; because it means you allow you to be you (not pretending to be someone else), and you fight for your value & don’t put up with poor treatment.

This week, we want to encourage you all to take 2 minutes (or more) every day to pray one simple prayer and then take time to listen. Pray, “God, show me why you love me” – and then listen for his voice (whether it’s audible, in your head, through worship, through the bible, etc). Be reminded of who you are and how incredible you are – so that you can learn to love yourself the way God loves you. 


Ask your group/child if there are any prayer requests or praise reports that they would like to share. Take a moment and pray over all the requests.

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